Strugges with 'Growing Up.'

Heh, growing up is weird… it’s a very weird experience, to me at least. It’s confusing. Sometimes I almost feel old (yes I know, it’s ridiculous) but when I think about the times I looked up to 12 year olds and compare it to now… how tiny they are lol, it just feels like it all happens a little too fast. And it just keeps going faster and faster…

And I have no idea what I’m going to do after our swedish “Gymnasium” (kinda like high school in the US). I know what I want to be, but I have no idea if I can make it and how to get there, and the more I know about the life after gymnasiet the more confused I seem to get lol. Plus, this is the time of my life, I have the greatest teachers, and I finally have the greatest friends one could ever wish for, and in only one year it’s all going to be over…? (I graduate in one year).

On the other hand, it’s kinda cool too. People treat you different the older you are… suddenly I can talk to teachers in a different way, more like equals, and people seem to get more straightforward with you. They start seeing you like a person, rather than like nothing more than a kid. Although I still have a lot of growing up left to do lol.

But I dunno, sometimes I wish that I was still 6 years old, and that I would stay 6 forever. That was a good time for me. :slight_smile:

This is a very interesting topic, I think about this sort of stuff alot, like things I might one day teach my child(when I have one).

Be prepared for everything to change alot, especially yourself. I almost can’t believe how much I changed over my teenage years, I’m pretty much a completely different person than I was 5 years ago.

This could just be me, but one thing I notice more and more, is how small things mean less and less as time goes on. There was a time where I would worry about everything so much, but nowadays I really couldn’t care less. I’ve learnt to simply accept that things are they way they are, and rather than worrying about things its better just to laugh at them. Don’t take life too seriously.

Also, although its cliche to say it, time really does start going by faster and faster. Life is short, do as much as you can.

I have earned my parents trust and never abused it.

Its iving me a tad more freedom , and 1 more thing.

And excellent agrument when we comes in arguments :grin:

30 years is probable to take it to long , but I do have a body that would say some ore years than i actually am … :confused:

I’m currently a student at university. I have many friends who see university as the one thing that is going to determine the rest of their lives. I know so many people who have and are making themselves ill with stress. One thing that I have learned is to not worry so much when it comes to my studies. Sure, I work hard on my assignments and study well; but I also realise that university is not the most important thing in my life.

I feel that too many young people go to university under the illusion that as soon as they graduate they are going to walk into the job of their dreams. The truth is, university is not so much about the education now and not really about getting that amazing job. Now, it’s more about the experience. I’m not saying I agree with these ways, but that is how it is. I remember my first week at uni. We learned absolutely nothing about our course, but instead were given information on social events and the best times to purchase cheap alcohol from the student union :neutral: I know extremely bright and talented people who have graduated with good degrees and three years or so down the line have still not found that job they studied four years for, and are left only with all of the debt to pay off. For example - a guy I know who studied for a degree in law, now works in a local supermarket doing stock taking. Nothing wrong with that, as it’s a living at the end of the day, but that’s what happened to him and he was always a very intelligent guy.

I realise I am going off on a bit of a tangent. I guess what I am trying to say is - yes, if you go to college/university, make sure you work hard but never kill yourself over it. I’m not meaning to sound like I’m saying university is pointless, but I feel people should see it more as a chance to expand your knowledge, not as a springboard to an amazing job. Just don’t kill yourself over it. As I said, I know people who have become extremely depressed and stressed out through the pressures of university. Just remember that there is more to life, which is all too short as it is.

I’ll be graduating in just over a year. Sure, I’d love to get into the field of psychology, which is what I’m studying; but I also realise that it may very well not happen. However, I just try and not to let that thought get me down as I have plenty other good things going on in my life right now.

I realise this post has been fairly pointless, but I thought I’d at least throw in some thoughts.

you are lucky if you have any friends at all bcoz i have none and i havent for a couple if years now so be greatfull :bored:

Woah… this is unusual, I thought about what I am gonna write and felt nothing but as soon as I started writing I was overwhelmed by sadness. I feel bad, why did I start writing this. I see, I never said it to anyone, only thought about it myself. Woah, I could cry now, but I don’t do it.

Sorry, the first paragraph was something I went trough while writing and I felt that it’s important to put it there. So the thing I have noticed while growing up is very depressing. I have always had friends, familys trust, I lately got a girlfriend and everything should be okay. But I got only one thought in my head “why do I need to live” I’m not suicidial or anything, but I feel that it would be better to die and be gone.

So, because I have absolutely no idea why I need to live on. I’m gonna have fun, my ultimate goal is to have fun and it doesn’t matter if other people think im weird or something, only thing that matters is the fact that im having good time. I can’t put my thoughts into words, they are so confusing.

I was thinking very long if I should post this or not, because I never shared these thoughts with anyone, im going bit offtopic too but thats what I have noticed while growing up, I’m just becoming more conscious about the question that is bugging me more than anything…

Why should I live?

I don’t expect answer that will satisfy me, or any answers at all :happy: If anyone else is struggling with this question pls share your thoughts.

I thought I’d post again since I was the person who started up the topic -lol- :grin:

Anyway, lately I’ve been having trouble finding who I am exactly. Around some friends I seem like one person, and around others, I feel like I different one. I feel like I need to fit in, and maybe others won’t accept me for who I truly am…and I guess that I"m just a little insecure right now. :shy:

Also, stress is a big thing. I stress about A LOT, and I’m already worrying about college when I’m just going to be a freshmen next year… :tongue: . :help: lol

[color=indigo]I noticed that about myself, too… I act completely in different mediums. I liked to be loud and funny with some people, quiet and thoughtful around others, et cetera. The answer I found for myself was that, even though I showed traits at different times that seem contradicting, they were all just parts of myself I lived out in different surroundings. I liked being loud and quiet, funny and thoughtful. Don’t feel the need to pick just one of your personalities or attitudes in an attempt to label yourself.[/color]

i would say i agree with linko here… you arent a different person cause you act different sometimes… all you do is fit into the invironment… its just the way things are… im both romantic and funny… when im around guy friends im not romantic, id rather me funny then, if you see what i mean :content:

i know EXACTLY how you feel… and the answer for me became love… love is the feeling im staying alive for… loving another girl and being loved back is such an amasing thing that its worth living for, you say yourself that you have a girlfriend… you have to ask yourself, do you really love her? because the only thing i can think of when you have thoughts like this is that deep inside yourself you dont really love your girldfriend…

I feel like I’m not going to change at all as I become older. I am currently 16 and I have yet to actually yell at someone when I am upset. I’ve been told by a large amount of people that I’m an altruist, and I pretty much believe that. I think the only thing that will change about me is that I will start to work harder as I enter college, get a job, etc.

I am a kid at heart. I love cartoons. :happy:

Shikihe, I can’t tell you the meaning of life, but one things for sure, you’re not living to dwell on that question. I’ve asked myself similar questions many a time, as I’m sure most people had, but at the end of the day you’re never really going to get an answer to it. You have to give you own life meaning, no-one but you can choose what that meaning is.

[color=indigo]I didn’t think so either when I was younger. When older people would tell me that a year made a big difference at my age, I just thought they didn’t understand how grown up I thought I was. Maybe things will turn out different for you, but they were right… I feel like I’ve changed a lot even since I was just sixteen.[/color]

beyondpower and Jabbervock, thanks for your answers. I can’t say for sure if I love or don’t love my girlfriend, but it’s not new to me, I never kinda fall in love with girls. And Jabber you said something which was very profound to me, that I’m not going to live thinking about this question, only put it on the background and maybe get some answers for it later on.

But what comes to love, I think I never felt love. But maybe I sometime will -.- Thanks for your words they ment alot to me coz I didn’t think that kind of things at all 'coz I was too deep in my own thoughts.

I’m looking forward to the end of this. In high school, I’ve built a Wall high around me, I’m looking forward to pulling it down. Like the person I am outside of school is a cocky, funny, gentle person. Inside of school I’m an angry, mean, unhappy person. Like I find it so damn stifling to be in its environment. Like I’m an independent, creative person, and all my life I’ve been told what to do inside of school. It’s not like I haven’t learned anything, it’s just that everytime i’m in high school, it basically feels like my soul is dying. It just isn’t a good feeling.

lol, I’m not a woe is me type person, however. I get out in a a month and a half, and I figure thats about when my life starts. I want to be a writer. A Paperback Writer :smile:

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If I could give you a tip for growing up… Think from an early age what you want to do with the rest of your life. I mean, still have fun bein a teenager while it lasts but place a bit of importance on life after school. I never wanted to do anything I just wanted to bum around and party with mates. Now I’m 22 and I dont have anything really going for me, and I still couldnt tell you what I want to do with my life.

Dont end up working a sucky low paying job for the rest of your life. Find what you want to do with your life and find out what you need to accomplish it.

Here are a few things I’ve learned as I’ve grown older;

High school can be a downer if you let it, but hang in there. Post-Secondary education is where it’s at :cool:

Pick your friends wisely, because the friends you make now could be with you for a long time, so you may want associate yourself with, good, caring people.

Learn as much as you can. Growing up, you’ll have time to learn, so take advantage of it. Also, remember to think for yourself. Society has a way of trying to get you to think like everyone else, but it’s important to always think clearly and reach your own conclusions, come up with your own ideas, etc.

Don’t let adulthood kill your inner child!!:yes:

Finally, explore some possibilities for what you want to do for your life. I know, this can be hard, so my advice is to try to pick something that allows you to be dynamic. This is where the benefits of College/University become apparent. Also, keep in mind that if you grow up and don’t enjoy your job, you can always find another job when the opportunity presents itself, so don’t let the burden of deciding what to do with the rest of your life get you depressed, because it’s very likely you won’t be doing the same thing your whole life anyway :smile:

"I feel like I’m not going to change at all as I become older. I am currently 16 and I have yet to actually yell at someone when I am upset. I’ve been told by a large amount of people that I’m an altruist, and I pretty much believe that. I think the only thing that will change about me is that I will start to work harder as I enter college, get a job, etc.

I am a kid at heart. I love cartoons. :happy:"

Me too. When I read that, it felt like I was reading my own post.

What can I say… :content:

I have started realizing everyoen wants to fit in so they will follow whatever trend it is. That is why i have started noticing more emos.

I have also noticed that in high school more people have been getting into drugs and more people try to pressure me into trying these things. I am strong enough to resist but i see that more and more people i knwo are falling under peer pressure and turn against me when i try to make them realize they are stronger than everyone talking them into it. Also i have become more frustrated with the people who are falling under this pathetic influence and im grwing apart from everyone i was once close with. i dont need people who refuse to try to think for themselves.

I have begun to notice that alot of my girlfriends(Who are friends) kiss me without really meaning anything bye it and they dont care about who they kiss and flirt with. it is really stange cause it really messes with my head. also i just started to realize that if i cant change myself then i may end up bein alone for a lot longer than i want. Yeah so i have had alot more realizations then this…