Well yes but the problem therein lies that women expect guys to make the first move, but if a guy is ‘just friends’ with a girl, he gets rather confused… and so does the girl… and plus then there aren’t boundaries set… for example, you might devastated if your best male friend suddenly got a girlfriend, but hey, YOU ARE JUST FRIENDS, so why can’t he?
That’s why you need to establish fairly early on into it that there is interest in MORE than being friends…
This doesn’t mean you do it on the first date, it might mean “hey i like you, let’s get to know each other” and so you both know there is potential for going out there, and that you both have interest… and THEN if you become “friends” to a degree, that’s a sign that you are compatible and you can start being exclusive, so we don’t see broken hearts and cheating and miscommunication and misunderstandings going on.
But if a girl EVER says “let’s be friends first” or “let’s just be friends” or “I kind of just think of you as a friend” that equals YOU HAVE NO CHANCE WITH ME… in guy terminology, whereas, the girl might not mean that… so it causes a lot of problems.
Now this girl might not have had a relationship before, but I still think it’d be okay for him to simply let her know that he likes her, but it’s okay if they want to take things slow and get to know each other and stuff… and if she agrees… that is great… you build up a sort of “friendship” while understanding that you are both open immediately for it to be more.
But you know, if you don’t have a mutual understanding (in CLEAR WORDS) that you like each other, then it can cause problems.
That’s what I think I was trying to say… I don’t know a lot here, but well I have learned a little bit from psychology classes (we didn’t really study relationships per se) but that paired with my observations and my experience lead me to believe it’s good to right away (but not too strongly) tell the person you have interest in them.
and I think a great way would be “Hey, you know… I kind of like you… and I’d like to get to know you better.” and see what the response is.
… or something.
/me wants a woman.
and since I am horribly shy and extremely socially inept… I’d say that if some girl managed to talk to me a bit, and we had something in common (lucid dreams) and she went ahead and asked me out… I’d be mega relieved… now I might think it a bit weird and I might be like “umm… okay… maybe… but I need to know you better first… we need to talk more… but yeah, I could see that as a possibility if we click”
I wouldn’t say it like that… it’d be more like “… um… uhh… cough uhmm… well… clears throat…” but… I’d eventually convey the same meaning.