What does being 'in love' feel like?

Love and lust are two different things, and its something that many teens (I imagine myself included) get muddled up.

I’ve seen someone claim they’re deeply in love with someone else, only to dump them a little while later.

One of my friends had this girlfriend for two years, and he told me SEVERAL times that he was ‘absolutely sure she was the one!’, but…well, she dumped him a few months later and now he’s absolutely sure she’s the most evil person on the planet. :tongue:
Funny thing was, four hours later he met a girl at a party and started dating her, sure that SHE was the one.

Yeah. That didn’t last long.

I havn’t loved anny one since like fourth grade and then it was not really true love either. And i havnt found anny one to really love i kinda loose intresst right after a verry short while.

I tend to think love is like a drug being forced through your head and you have no power to control whether you use that power or for what. I see many friends fall in love or strong lust and I tell them “in 3weeks you will just find out something and you won’t be happy no more” it sounds great to be in love.
But with the ever changing cycles of 7yrs going through us it seems impossible to see that someone could be with someone else and they could both love each other.
I feel like as if I want to be in love but I know that even if I found a girl tmoro that could love me I know I would change in 7yrs which would mean it could only happen for a short time.

What I try to do now is love for everything about them apart from the physical even if the physical is great, and see the beauty inside. I prefer having girls as friends and been able to hug them and help them rather than love them and eventually hate them. That way i have a friend for life rather than a girlfriend for 7yrs

It can also feel incredibly bad.
If youre unlucky i measn.
Thats the same even if you are 15 and doesn`T Exactly now what it is or whatever.

I want girlfriend and is 15 .
Whats wrong with that ?

Just because you say you are in love with someone only to get dumped a little while later doesnt mean that you were not in love. You can be in love and not even be dating that person. In all my years of living, I never thought I’d ever be able to define the word love, but now, after being with the love of my life, my precious angel, my sweetheart - Brianna Martin, I think I can truthfully say that I know what love is.

-Love is making your girl smile no matter what her current emotion is.

-Love is holding your girl close and never letting go.

-Love is putting your arm around your girl when you two goto sleep, and still having your arm around her when you wake up.

-Love is the sacrifice of the self for the sake of your girl.

-Love is Protection

-Love is Sacrifice

-Love is Trust

-Love gives us hope, in a hopeless world.

-Love makes us happy.

-Love brings us joy unlike any other emotion.

-Love is getting through the good times and the bad…together.

-Love is risking everything to sustain.

The other night, I looked up at the stars, and for each star, I named a reason why I loved her. I was doing great lol, until I ran out of stars :sad:.

I don’t know what the future holds. But I do know that, as long as there is a single breath in my body, My love for my Brianna will never die. Brianna, baby, my precious angel, my sweetheart, I love you very much. I will always love you. I know there will be mistakes that I will make baby, but I know none are worse than chances I dont take. I wanna spend the rest of my life with you baby. I’m in love. It’s the kind of love that no one can deny, where no one can come up and tell you that you are not in love. Because you know you are. Temet Nosce - Know Thyself. Right now, I know I’m in love, and that love will never cease.

I love you my angel,

~Will Pheagin (Seraphim)~

Love is too complicated for its own good.

Okay, that was really beautiful. I especially agree about it being about trust.
The hardest thing is love across a distance.
Then it’s about trust, faith, hope. Patience.
Ask me to tell someone why i love them, and i can’t. Only because i don’t know where to start…

The love I have for Brianna is a long distance relationship. She lives in Georgia, I live in North Carolina. But its about trust and faith, hope and patience. I love her with all my heart.

That’s really beautiful Sera! :touched:

How about adding this to the list? Loving someone because of what’s inside, not because of their looks. I sure as heck ain’t a looker, so the people I date practically HAVE to like the real me.

Funny how that works, isn’t it? Personally, I know I could look 10x better if I were to do some proper grooming. (or whatever you want to call a guy makeover ::lol: ) Friends have actually offered to get me fixed up a little, but I’ve refused. Let me get hooked up with someone real nice, someone who gets me, THEN you can do whatever you want with my looks. :content:

yeah, i wasnt much of a looker either lol. Countless nights of praying that i could look better, to be more popular. its wierd, senior year comes (this year), and all has changed. :smile: I look completely different. All this just because I got contacts. I no longer have glasses, who would have thought that taking off my glasses would make such a boost in things such as: Confidence, Popularity, Friendships. lol, Life is looking good :happy:

Sounds great man! :cool:

Doesn’t that remind you of one of those teen movies where there’s a dorky girl in them? Take off the glasses, put down the hair, add a little makeup, and BAM! :lol:

lol yeah! :happy:

I don’t know…glasses are quite sexy…except they um…get in the way a bit.
Grr…put two people who wear glasses and they spend more time making lens contact than lip contact!

You have a point there. Stupid glasses…

But they DO look sexy on the right people.

yeah, you just decide to move in for a kiss, and it’s like ‘clunk!’
Although, if you have two people who are nuts about each other, it doesn’t really matter anyhow…:wink:

Like having a rabbitvolverine in your underpants.

ohh…one of them…yeah, i definitely get it…:wink:

Ah, so love is hard to comprehend even as you get older…but once you experience it, you’re like, “wow, THIS is love!” lol, that’s what I gather anyway. I’m not quite sure if I’ve ever been in love before…i’ve experienced a lot of intense feelings, but then looking back…I thought I was ‘in love’ when things were merely crushes.

Btw, I think someone mentioned that 14 is way too early to make life-changing desicions, like…teen sex. i definately know that lol. I’m mature enough to know that I’m not emotionally ready for anything like that. though I don’t just want something to be a ‘fling’. I’ve never even been kissed… :shy: and I have a lot of morals and boundries that I set for myself. I think sex should be saved for marriage…or unless until a very, very, serious relationship…b.ut um…that’s jsust my opinion. :smile: so don’t y’all worry about that lol.

I hate when people just like your looks. Whenever I like someone, I take into consideration their personality. There are some ‘lookers’ at my school who have the worst personality ever. :bored: I don’t really know if I’m a ‘looker’ or not. I’m not a very confident person…so i don’t really know. (trying to change that :wink: ) But when people are so shallow not even to consider a person’s personality, it aggrivates me so much. Because those people just want to use you…and I won’t let people do whatever they want with me…morals are very important to me.

Anyway, lol. (got kinda off-topic) I made a poem about love in the garden of creation…it’s called ‘whisk me away’. Can you guys relate to the feelings that I describe…sorta kinda? jw… :grin:

You used my word! :razz:

For the past couple days I’ve been planning on making a topic about that. Asking people if they would still like someone who wasn’t a stereotype. It kinda has to do with my one friend… But ANYHOO, maybe once I’m done with my homework I’ll put it up. :cool: