human speech tangles

moved to lounge :slight_smile:

“Okay I’ll come over soon”
"I don’t want you to feel left out " -------------- this

is akin to a rabbit, it has a hole, and its hole is in the soul, and is emotional programming

to give a simple answer "okay i will come over soon : you do this "

then to instead of receive an “okay” rather, receive tangents, explanations, justifications, obfuscations, and prolongations of human speech

shows you that you are dealing with a sophisticated layer of programming that is blocking complete and total congruence ,

in this instance, an emotion, running many programs
this one emotion, this rabbit hole
has so many different words and ideas and will say and do so many different things ,

and in a relationship if one does not listen VERY carefully to these clues and delve right in like a laser to the core of the issue, to bring the emotional waters to surface, they may results in quirky uprisings like a geyser later on in the future.

they are also invitations to invoke playful language in order to experience and create a new communication that is heartfelt and sincere

hmmm…
I don’t yet have the words to make a proper reply…
Maybe you could expand/focus your ideas a bit more?

= processing information that is understood in a broad non-verbal level,
paradoxes and riddles,
an inkling of knowing it ,
it is often when a dream segment is processed, something so broad that the conscious self cannot and has not yet mapped it for the left brain and the reasoning, but it has just been risen above as if a submarine to surface above the waters, looking back below it knows the depths were there, but is not in them, yet has taken an artifact back

= intersection of archetypes , as teacher, you as student

= obvious !

we wish to take people from “hmm” to “ahhh” over time ,

I really like this. it shows how the mind and the way we process things but in a form of words. a computer makes that loud noise when its processing

also

“how was your day?” is more of an introductory question. they want to have justification for telling you how there day was.
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p.s
i think i get the concept

Yes… ‘ahhh’

Would You say that
‘ahhh’ = Awareness
?

Something that I find fascinating and slightly disturbing at the same time:
Automatic and detached, yet ‘polite’ phrases…
“How are You?”
“Good to See You”
“Have a nice day”
…even “Thank You” and “You’re Welcome” are often spoken with this Auto-pilot detachment…
I usually find myself becoming irritated when someone tries to have this type of detached small-talk with me… or overwhelmed with the urge to radically shift the conversation beyond what I perceive to be their comfort zone, potentially breaking the known ‘social contract’…
But I most often just go along with the small-talk, all the while observing the subtle language the person is displaying, usually with their body movements…
and if you listen carefully you can ‘hear’ plenty in what they’re not saying,
or in their intonations…

I greatly enjoy speech or communication without words
and I even more enjoy just how well you can get to Know some people without them…

The Eyes say so much

as do our hands…

AhhhhWareNess!
AweWareness!

yes pleaize

communication is fascinating,

I don’t get the concept of “hello,” especially when it’s in passing. All it seems to do is acknowledge that both people exist. It also interrupts my whatever I’m thinking to convey this useless tidbit. It gets frustrating.

I find this topic to be ridiculously enlightening!

I share your frustration. My personal pet peeve is “What’s up?” or “Sup?”; I’m definitely guilty of using it as an automatic response, and it’s just so hollow. More often than not, it’s treated much the same as a passing “hey” – no real heartfelt interest or thought put into it, and it rarely merits more than a “nothing much” from the other person. It’s irritating, at times, that people seem to just talk for the noise, rather than to really exchange information.

…on the other hand, I can see why the occasional passing “hi” can be a good thing. Like you said, Lleu, sometimes it seems like it does nothing more than acknowledge the other person’s existence; as a semi-angsty high school kid, I can tell you that sometimes, having someone recognize that I exist is what gets me through the day. Sure, it’s fairly minimal contact on a verbal level, but like Adahni pointed out, “hi” isn’t always the only thing that a person is saying.

welll

“sup” is like dogs yipping and a yapping at each other,

its a program , it may seem “crude” or “shallow” but it really does mean a lot
anyone that will casually say hi to you will be your friend!

this is something remarkable in and of itself, if you take advantage of these moments and put yourself into them, then the communication becomes more fulid and refined over time

one thing i thought of was stereotypical ways a grandparent might ask you things that are not even remotely relevant

and how to them you are this stereotyped idea of yourself

yet to you, they are, too!

any form of communication at all is a bridge to being your truest self,

but then we have specialists, maybe you can be best friends with anyone, but if you are a chemist, you kind of want someone to be a best friend that will help you in your passions, right ?

lots of times people want to roll with feelings, exchanging only loose phrases that are easy to bounce back and forth,

here’s one
"My Macaroni Salad … " - expressing a desire to be praised, although coming from neutral and fulfilled emotional esteem
“It will get eaten.” - a desire to lower things down to casual, relax, comfort,

rather than “Wow it is awesome!”
a desire for practicality ,

we are what we speak about!

if you call someone , out of anger, a name, you are what you are calling them, it is not them, it is you ,

yet I wish for help on this because one can with clarity call people what they are without themselves being that!

for instance a dog that only wants to play, all day long, and a grumpy old man yelling at her and calling her every name he can think of including “bad dog”
means “bad owner” you don’t GET how to discipline her ,

while simultaneously loving the dog dearly it is a source of him constantly needing to yell, solving nothing.

one of my bigest pet peeves is when people always have to say something. and there excuse is i dont like awkward silences. because they are talking but not really saying anything.
also when people say “sooooo…”
“so what?”
“idk. dont know what to say”
“then dont say anything, there is nothing to say”

thats one of the reasons i have the friends i have. they know when to talk and to socialize. but when its silence. no one feels the “need” to talk. so u can just think about whatever you want and it doesnt matter.
its when other people tell you everything thats in there head and expect you to tell you everything your thinking?! i dont think so.

if that happens, be masculine, and push yourself into the feminine , and make them see what you see, in them.

This is true with my friends especially when we’re high lol