My quest for happiness.

Shiroi · September 17, 2003, 8:59am

What is happiness really. Im starting to give up hope aboute happiness and love… Sad but true…animal instinct is all we have i think. Find food and mate…

Xenesis · September 17, 2003, 12:53pm

Well, in my opinion, luck is good or bad chance. Sometime’s it’s on your side, sometimes it isn’t. Luck is fickle. Don’t rely on it but ride the wave when it swells.

I personally don’t believe in love (but I’ll save my opinions for another day). However, you are still more than ‘animal instinct’.

Don’t worry white, you’ll feel better later. Go, dream or something.

Xetrov · September 17, 2003, 5:13pm

Luck is only your interpretation of a particular situation that somehow seemed to end in your favor by forces that are not under your control. If those situations never happen, thats bad luck

Dm7 · September 17, 2003, 5:47pm

I don’t believe in luck. If it has to happen, then it happens. That’s all. That word, “luck” sounds like a fate that we’re designated to. That’s why I don’t really believe in luck and I don’t really like that word.

We are the action makers. Every act equals consequences (bad or good).

I still do wish people good luck of course… Hehehe.

Shiroi · September 17, 2003, 6:33pm

ah Luck ofcourse is a strange thing. Some people just happens to be in the right place at the right time, knowing the right things. But what aboute happiness? What is happiness really?

Dm7 · September 17, 2003, 6:42pm

Long-lasting happiness?
Short-lasting happiness?

Which do you have in mind? Last-lasting happiness (joy) is possible, I know. You just have to really find it inside of you to find that joy. It is a deep type of happiness along with trust and love. That’s all I can explain what it is.

Short-lasting happiness is an immediate happiness from a certain thing and it doesn’t last very long. It is a rush, but not satisfying as last-lasting happiness does.

Making senses? I think I’m killing my brain by thinking too hard (I’m studying Dutch right now at the same time ).

foolish · September 17, 2003, 7:10pm

As a cheerful person, I agree totally with DM7.

How can you not belive in love or happiness? Do you mean that you don’t belive in them for you, or at all??? If not at all then just look around you, open your eyes. There are happy people everywhere! And as for love, it isn’t just sloppy romantic “LUV” crap that has no meaning, real “love” is so much more. I think the word has been used too much in the wrong way, people don’t know the real meaning of it any more

If you mean you don’t belive in love or happiness for yourself, then perhaps you are doing something wrong

To be honest, at one point I didn’t belive much in love either. But then things changed (I won’t bore you with details) and now I can see what love is.

You can’t say that you don’t belive in them, thats just wrong Maybe you’ve been looking for them in the wrong places…

Jack · September 17, 2003, 7:34pm

What you give comes back.Thats how usually love,hapiness,smile and luck behave.Its mostly up to our actions but of course theres a factor of coincidence.
Ever noticed that angry people asked how was their day usually would answer that few ppl made them upset,and this girl was rude and that man was irritating.Then ask a happy person same thing.
Hapiness is a state of mind and a thing that can be worked out by not looking for it but by being it.Luck comes to those who are happy not to those who just look for it.

sage · September 17, 2003, 7:35pm

If you’re looking for happiness in some place or in some thing or some one, you will never find it. Happiness is a choice. Once you realize this, you will realize you can be completely happy all the time, regardless of what Life may throw at you. There is no reason not to be happy.

Now read that paragraph again substituting “love” for “happiness” and “in love” for “happy.”

Dm7 · September 17, 2003, 7:42pm

Yes attitude also play important role here… I have a picture of one tiny drop, creating a huge ripple with text at the bottom saying,

It’s up to you to look in the world in a whole different eyes. It’s like cup 1/2 filled with water…

A person with happiness will notice that it’s 1/2 filled.

A person without happiness will notice that it’s 1/2 empty.

Think about that.

Jack · September 17, 2003, 7:55pm

ahh.forgot the most important.Ever read the book “Conversations with God” by Neale Walsch?
Its not any religious kind of book.Its more spirituall and philosophical.I think everyone should read it for his/her own sake.It lets you understand what are emotions,what is YOU,how to just be happy…all kinds of stuff-not taken lightly,its very very wise book.For me its one of most important ones on my shelves.
Highly recommended if u ever feel lost,confused or just sad.It will let you understand you,not by trying to convince you to something but through your own experience:)
take care

AstareGod · September 17, 2003, 8:42pm

I’ve read the Conversations with God book… If you’re looking for answers on why you are feeling the way you are (whether it be angry, joyful, disappointed, etc) you can read the book, then figure out what beliefs are causing those conditions inside yourself. Then you can work to change your beliefs so that those negative conditions won’t appear anymore.

Give it a read. I know it’ll help!

Nazca · September 18, 2003, 2:09am

It’s up to you to look in the world in a whole different eyes. It’s like cup 1/2 filled with water…

A person with happiness will notice that it’s 1/2 filled.

A person without happiness will notice that it’s 1/2 empty.

Think about that.
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Actually, I think it’s 1/2 empty, but I have a logical reason, it’s not 'cause I’m a pessimist. If I think of a glass of water, I assume that someone is drinking it, so it’s level is going down. So it’s half empty because I assume it was full before and soon someone will finish the glass.

Did that make sense? No? Oh well.

Dm7 · September 18, 2003, 2:18am

Nazca,

Umm… yeah it could make sense, but I’m just using it as a symbol to help people to see what I mean with how we see the world in one eye or other.

You know what I’m saying?

I always see it 1/2 filled. Hehehe.

infection0 · September 18, 2003, 4:31am

We could have a whole arguement about how we see the glass here. (Half empty, dude.) I didn’t use logic to do that, I am a pessimist so I don’t get disappointed easily! (Actually kills of my LDing, so it’s best to think positive about some things)

I used to trudge through life without purpose. Then I found this site.
Seriously, that’s the only source of “happiness” I have right now. It’s hope for me, isn’t it?

What?

Dm7 · September 18, 2003, 4:37am

Mmm… that made me wonder. At first when I came here, it was my main source of happiness too, but I found something else… and it’s long-lasting happiness: joy.

Perhaps it is because that this website, ld4all, is open-minded unlikely our social here in the world. In here, we are free to speak freely without being labeled as a freako or strange. So, I understand…

What?

Shiroi · September 18, 2003, 9:05am

It is really nice to see that all of you are so entusiastic. What i cant understand is what Sage said. How can happiness be a choice?

I think the most of my unhappiness commes from my disease…wich i dont choose to have. It has forced me to change my life quite significant. And i dont choose to have a messy relation with my girlfriend. What i do know is that i give a lot of love and care. But i dont get the same back. It is like talking to a wall…

These things are very complicated…

daysong · September 18, 2003, 11:14am

It’s more of choosing whether or not you’re going to be happy. It’s not choosing what you have, or what you don’t. I also am coping with a disease, which definitely has changed my life. There are some other things that have been tough for me, but I’ve been trying to stay happy

I found this story a while ago, and I guess it has something to do with this subject It’s been in emails and such…

The 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud mother-in-law of my best friend, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o’clock, with her hair fashionably coiffed and makeup perfectly applied, even though she is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. Her husband of 70 years recently passed away, making the move necessary. Maurine Jones is the most lovely, gracious, dignified woman that I have never had the pleasure of meeting. While I have never aspired to attain her depth of wisdom, I do pray that I will learn from her vast experience.
After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description of her tiny room, including the eyelet sheets that had been hung on her window. “I love it,” she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having just been presented with a new puppy.

“Mrs. Jones, you haven’t seen the room… just wait.”

“That doesn’t have anything to do with it,” she replied. “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged … it’s how I arrange my mind. I already decided to love it …”

“It’s a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice; I can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of my body that no longer work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the ones that do. Each day is a gift; and as long as my eyes open, I’ll focus on the new day and all the happy memories I’ve stored away … just for this time in my life. Old age is like a bank account … you withdraw from what you’ve put in … So, my advice to you would be to deposit a lot of happiness in the bank account of memories.”

“Laugh … every day. Love … every moment.”