my reaccuring nightmare

death_dreamer · September 19, 2004, 4:02am

ok for about the past 4-4/12 months now i have been having the same reaccuring nightmare…

i watch the one person i truely love in the world die in the most horrible/painful ways imagionable, EVERY NIGHT. its a different way every night but its the same person. i am always being held down, unable to move, as she sits there and screams, pleads, cries for me to help her… to do something anything to help her to save her.

these dreams are killing me. i am afraid to fall asleep every night. iw ake up every morning and it takes me all i have no to scream my head off at what i had just witnissed. even while im awake i still see flashes of what i had seen that night…

i have attempted lucidity with these dreams and nothing seems to work.

please… please someone hel me stop these dreams

Baloogan · September 19, 2004, 7:57am

Dear Death Dreamer,

Maybe you should think happy thoughts and change your handle?
Make a dreamsign out of that and save them. When you become lucid de-held-self-down and save them. I think that might be the point to the dreams, to save them, subCs are wierd.

What has changed in the last 4.5 months? Moved?
My subC got all pissed off after I moved. My highlevel DCs acted depressed… kinda like normal DCs.

If its not too personal, have you ever been a hostage/kidnapped? This could be your subC attempting to make sence of a situation like that.

Has the “person you truly love” done anything differently recently to freak out your subC?

Lastly, do you consider yourself a savior/helper, someone who people should and do turn to you for help? This could be your subC making sense of that as well. Or this could be your subC telling you to help people more.

Sorry if this post was too long.

Cyrus · September 19, 2004, 12:01pm

Maybe you have subconcious fear of losing her (either through death, or that she just leaves you one day)? This might create such nightmares also.

DreamAddict · September 20, 2004, 3:21pm

In Chapter 10 of EWLD LaBerge has some information that should help you.
It’s a long read, lucidity.com/EWLD10.html

I believe nightmares become recurrent by the following process: in the first place, the dreamer awakens from a nightmare in a state of intense anxiety and fear; naturally, he or she hopes that it will never happen again. The wish to avoid at all costs the events of the nightmare insures that they will be remembered. Later, something in the person’s waking life associated with the original dream causes the person to dream about a situation similar to the original nightmare. The dreamer recognizes, perhaps unconsciously, the similarity, and thus expects the same thing to happen. Thus, expectation causes the dream to follow the first plot, and the more the dream recurs, the more likely it is to recur in the same form. Looking at recurrent nightmares in this way suggests a simple treatment: the dreamer can imagine a new conclusion for the dream to weaken the expectation that it has only one possible outcome.

He suggest “dream re-entry” that explains:

Dream re-entry is practiced in the waking state. Dreamworkers begin by selecting dreams to relive, and then come up with alternative ways of acting in the dreams to influence the progression of the events towards more favorable or useful outcomes. Then they relive the dream in imagination, with the new action. They continue to visualize being in the dream until they see the result of their alternative behavior. Williams offers an example of dream re-entry from his own experience. He had dreamt: “I am in this house and there is something scary to confront. I don’t want to do it and am all alone. I’m quite afraid. I wake up.” He resolves to re-enter the dream and face the fear. In this case, he actually fell asleep as he was practicing the re-entry process, which added to the intensity of his experience:
 [i]This time I make myself enter the bathroom where the source of my fears seems to be. I am so afraid, so afraid that the flow of images stops. But through sheer will I make myself enter the bathroom ready for anything. I think of taking my machete and thrashing around with it if I am attacked. But I decide against this because I want to confront my fear by willing myself to stay with the situation no matter what.... I am ready to face that which could overwhelm me and exist with it rather than try to defeat it. 

 ...When I do [enter the bathroom], there seems to be a hulking luminescent figure there. It does not attack me but changes into a dwarf-like figure, long arms, roundish head, like Yoda. We face each other. I have stayed with the situation. No attack comes. My fear goes away when I experience what is there behind the door, and has been there so many years going back to childhood. What has been there behind every door and scary place is fear itself and my inability to fully deal with it. [21] [/i]

Good luck! I have a good feeling this is what will help you.

death_dreamer · September 24, 2004, 8:27pm

thank you for the advice